What I'm Reading
Simplicity Parenting serves as just such a reminder that I'm not the only one who suffers from the harried schedule I create. In this thoughtful, challenging book, authors Kim John Payne and Lisa M Ross explore the effects on our children of too much busyness and too much stuff, including overstimulation, anxiety, behavioral issues, and ADHD. There were parts of this book that resonated deeply with what I know to be true about my own family, and there were portions I found challenging (a clear indicator of the changes I need to make).
Payne and Ross make a strong case for simplifying our lives for the good of our families. The authors have created a comprehensive and practical approach to what I call "slow parenting." The authors describe how to create a simplified environment in which children thrive. They then explain why children crave a predictable rhythm to their days while exploring the current phenomenon of over-scheduled youth.
In each chapter, the authors illustrate the importance of allowing children to be bored, creating plenty of opportunities for open play, and preserving the sweet simplicity of childhood.
"Simplicity provides the ease and well-being to develop a strong sense of self" (Page 90).
"By starting at home--embracing experience over things, and 'enough' rather than always more--you've made room. You've cleared out space, literally and emotionally. You've made a container for relationship and the slow unfolding of childhood. You've allowed room for your child's own imagination and their explorations through play" (Page 93).
"Relationships are often built in the intervals, the spaces between activities, when nothing much is going on" (Page 109).
"The more you say, the less you are listening" (page 186).
"Before you say something, ask yourself these three question: Is is true? Is it kind? Is it necessary" (Page 193)?
If you've read this book, I'd love to hear from you! How did it transform the structure in your home?