This means it’s a great time to share some of my favorite parenting books with you! These are books I often quote, reference for my own benefit, and recommend to parents.
What I'm Reading
Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids is a gentle introduction to peaceful parenting. It makes a strong case for this approach to parenting without using shame or blame. Dr. Laura Markham recognizes that the strategies in her book are ideals, and that we will all fall short if we expect perfection each day.
Most importantly, she emphasizes the role of self-awareness, the premise of the book being that when we work on our own issues to create peace within, we are better able to meet the needs of our children in a loving, effective manner. So easy to say, so much work to accomplish.
Luckily Dr. Markham offers concrete tools that can be implemented immediately to increase your self-regulation and strengthen your relationship with your children, thus creating more peace within your home.
“Usually, in parenting and in life, the best response to upsetting emotions is to reflect, not react. In other words, don’t take action while you’re triggered” (page 7).
“The secret world of adulthood is that we are still growing up, and parenting forces us to learn to parent ourselves as well as our child” (page 29).
“But deepening our connection with our child will always help, no matter how challenging the child or the situation” (page 63).
“When we set limits in an empathic, loving way, we help our child feel safe” (page 155).
“Praise kills the joy we take in our own accomplishments and makes us dependent on emotional handouts from others” (page 231).