But what if this strategy is fundamentally flawed?
What if we recognized that we can’t ever truly change anyone but ourselves?
What if we believed that change in the home starts with recognizing our own fears, limitations, and beliefs and working from there?
That would be pretty revolutionary.
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She also discusses how our culture sets us up for failure with false narratives about children and the role of the parent. She reminds us that we don't own our children; they aren't ours to control and manipulate, even if we think it's for their own good. Our children are sacred beings worthy of respect and dignity. Our children deserve to have awakened parents, and we deserve to live fully and intentionally.
Granted it’s only February, but I’m confident this will be one of my favorite parenting books this year.
“The reality is that as long as we focus on changing our children - or anyone other than ourselves - we’ll discover that it’s akin to trying to empty the ocean with a teaspoon” (Page 37).
“A whole lot of ‘doing’ may be the hallmark of adulthood, but ‘being’ is the domain of childhood. It’s this complete surrender to reality that allows young children to be free, exploratory, and adventurous.” (Page 105).
“While we say that self-governance is exactly what we hope our children will develop as adults, it threatens our sense of dominance when they exhibit this in their relationship with us” (Page 182).
“Embodiment is the path to empathy. When we understand how we ourselves learn, we engage in deep fellowship with our children, holding their hand as fellow travelers on the journey of life. Instead of egging them on from behind, we stand together side by side” (Page 318).